Some of you may have heard about the Texas A&M male cheerleader who during a pep rally in preparation for playing Penn State in the Alamo Bowl said Joe Paterno (the 81 year-old Penn State coach) was on his death bed and needed a coffin . It got some national media attention but the story quickly faded, mainly because Paterno shrugged off the comments and because Texas A&M sent the cheerleader home and issued numerous apologies. And BTW, how irresponsible was ESPN in actually replaying the tape of the incident during the nationally televised bowl game?
Anyway, this incident got me thinking about how our culture treat's the elderly. In a word, pretty badly. There are many theories on why American's attitudes toward the elderly are somewhat negative. I was personally never aware of this until I started caring for my aging mom. And now I see examples of it every day. Here are a few:
- I witnessed an older woman ordering bacon at a diner and trying to explain to the waitress how she liked it cooked (crispy :-), but the diner was crowded and noisy so the waitress got very impatient with the woman and simply walked away saying it comes only one way.
- I was behind an elderly man at a Shop Rite pharmacy the other day who had just received his prescription but was confused about the price and medications he had received. He was obviosuly hard of hearing so he was speaking loudly to the woman behind the register about his concerns - but he was not being rude, just voicing his frustration over some apparent errors in his prescription refills. The woman behind the register got very upset with the man and angrily replied "don't yell at me". The man quietly walked away.
As America ages, we will all need to get better at understanding and communicating with the elderly. Especially businesses. As we age, we are not as sharp and we can get easily confused. These pharmacies and other service businesses need to train their employees on the importance of patience and understanding toward seniors. With the massive increase in our senior population this is good business, and just good period. It's the right thing to do. These "seniors" helped build the society we now enjoy and a little respect is due. Service is bad enough to everyone but cut the senior a break - you'd want the same treatment when your that age.

